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Monday, 30 January 2017

Book review: The Girl with the lower back tattoo

Book review: The Girl with the lower back tattoo
Monday, 30 January 2017
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I love to read but a lot of the time, for whatever reason, I feel like I either don't have the time (or just can't be bothered) to sit down in a quiet space with a physical book and just read. So, in an attempt to become more like an adult I've decided to start listening to audiobooks! I actually don't know why I didn't think about doing this before because it is FAB. I wander around the house doing general chores, making dinner etc and just listen to books while I'm doing it! 


Anyways, if you sign up with audible you get one free credit that you can use to download any book that you want. I chose Amy Schumer's The Girl With The Lower Back Tattoo because I had wanted to read it for ages and because it is a story about her life, read by her so I thought that it would be interesting to hear it being read the way she had intended. 

I honestly can't put in to words how much I enjoyed this book! I already kinda knew that I would like it because I love Amy Schumer's stand up, films and TV shows so I assumed that this would be no different - but it was different. I loved it, but it was different. I love how witty and sarcastic she is and there definitely was humour aplenty, but the book showed a more serious side of her. 
In amongst the stories of one-night-stands and failed relationships, she talks about body shaming and gun laws and it really makes the book an interesting read (or listen). 
I feel like it was extra special listening to the book being read by Amy Schumer herself because you could kind of tell when there were parts she found emotional and it felt REAL rather than just another 'autobiography' supposedly written by a celebrity that has actually been mostly written by a ghostwriter. 

One of my favourite aspects of the book were the parts when she talks about coming through in the comedy world. I love when any woman is able to make a name for herself in a male-dominated field and hearing the shit that she had to put up with makes me feel, idk, proud? Like, YOU GO GAL! There's also a bit that I have earmarked as my ultimate favourite (and that sometimes I listen to if I need a bit of reassurance) where she talks about body shaming and the term 'plus size'. I wish there was more positivity when it comes to women's body image so hearing someone try to promote it is amazzzzzing.

I would definitely recommend this book to ANYONE because it genuinely really is interesting - I find myself talking about it to anyone that will listen!

Sunday, 22 January 2017

What I've learnt about self-love

What I've learnt about self-love
Sunday, 22 January 2017
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As a young woman speaking from experience, loving yourself can be extremely hard. We’re under constant scrutiny, whether it be from others or from ourselves and we’re bombarded with pictures of ‘perfectly’ shaped models with perfect-looking lives (thank social media) so it’s no wonder that women are finding it hard to love themselves. However, recently after learning to accept myself I’ve learnt a lot about self-love and I thought I would share it with you in the hopes that you might learn to love yourself too!


 Sometimes it means saying no.
Whether it be saying no to going out with your friends or saying no to an extra workload – sometimes we HAVE to say no because we need to take a bit of time for ourselves.
People’s opinions are their business, not yours.
In life, we are never going to be liked or appreciated by every single person that crosses our path. As long as you stay kind and true to yourself, if people have an issue, it’s their problem not yours. As the famous saying goes, “a lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.”
We owe it to ourselves to look after our body AND our mind.
Looking after your body and your mind should always be top priority and both are as important as the other
Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time. 
We all know what it’s like to turn on the TV or open a magazine and see someone we wish we looked like but let’s face it, we never will. The images we see in the media are unrealistic, even the models in the pictures don’t look that way in real life! Comparing yourself to any other person is a complete waste of time because everyone is different! We should stop wasting our time feeling bad about looking different and start celebrating diversity.
Wear what you want to wear.
I used to say to myself, “if I was thinner I’d wear such nice clothes” and it wasn’t until this year that I realised I CAN WEAR NICE CLOTHES NOW. Having the confidence to wear what you want is hard and it takes a long time to get to a point where you are comfortable enough to do it, but once you do – it’s great!
I’m only human.I think we’re too hard on ourselves. It seems to be human nature to focus on what we can’t do rather than what we have done. It’s important to remember that we WILL make mistakes, but those mistakes don’t define us. The other day I congratulated myself on making a phone call that I was dreading (and had put off for at least 2 weeks) – it may seem like a small thing for some, but I was proud of myself for doing it so I felt like I deserved a congratulations. It’s little things like that, that people need to do more – whenever you achieve anything, no matter how small, just relish in the fact that you’ve achieved something!
You don’t need to have everything together.
No-one ever has their life 100% sorted, organised and perfect. If you have ever been told by someone that they have, chances are they were lying. So next time you feel like you’re falling apart and nothing seems to be going right just remember that you’re not alone because in the very least, I’m right there with ya!



xoxo Kayleigh
Sunday, 15 January 2017

2016 HIGHLIGHTS

2016 HIGHLIGHTS
Sunday, 15 January 2017
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1) Paris (/Disneyland).
Anyone that knows me knows that I have wanted to go to Disneyland for the past 20 years. When I was little my sister and I used to pick up brochures for Disneyland and just give them to our parents - you'd think they'd get the hint, but they didn't. So for my 21st birthday I FINALLY got to go and it was magical. I'm not going to lie, I cried (tbh, I cried more than once). Needless to say, it definitely didn't disappoint and I'm definitely going back ASAP! 
Also, while we were there we obviously had a little look around Paris and the whole time I was in awe. It is definitely one of the prettiest places I've ever seen - especially because I'm a sucker for architecture so I was mesmerised by all the old buildings and the chic little cafes with people sitting outside sipping on wine with a cigarette in hand.

2) Graduating.
The past 3 years of my life have been an absolute rollercoaster, but that's just what uni does to you! I genuinely had times (multiple times) when I thought that it just wasn't going to happen and I'm sure my friends were fed up of me threatening to drop out. But... I did it! University has genuinely been the best time ever and I met so many amazing people so it was really special to be able to graduate with them.


3) Reading festival.
This Summer I decided that I would treat my sister to a ticket to her first ever music festival. Since we were kids we've watched all of the festivals on TV and I knew that she would love to go, so for her 18th birthday I took her! It was so good being able to experience it with her and seeing some of our favourite bands together was definitely a highlight.



4) Multiple trips to London (/seeing Kinky Boots).
This year my sister went to uni and as much as I miss her, I also love it because it means that I get to visit her in London. This Christmas we went to see Kinky Boots at the Adelphi Theatre and it actually changed my life. So now, I'm going to quit my job and follow my dreams of being a West End star... 

5) The Christmas/New Year period with my gals.

Me and my friends are always off doing other things - some of us are still at uni, others have full time jobs and we're hardly ever in the same place at the same time so Christmas is always a time for us to reunite and it's always one of my fave times of year.


6) Getting matching tattoos with my sister.
I feel like a lot of these memories are either about, or include, my sister BUT WE JUST SPEND A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER OK!? Anyways, this year because she turned 18 we decided to get matching tattoos. It's a pinky promise and it basically means that we'll always be there for each other no matter what - like an unbreakable bond. She didn't even flinch, I was so proud!



I hope you enjoyed a little look back at the past year of my life! Feel free to comment your favourite memories from 2016 because it's always nice to think about the positives in amongst all the shit that happened on a more wider scale. 

xoxo Kayleigh

Friday, 13 January 2017

Sex education isn't cutting it

Sex education isn't cutting it
Friday, 13 January 2017
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I tweeted recently saying that I’m going to start discussing different topics on my blog such as mental health, topical news stories, sex etc. - things that I’m interested in, in general, rather than just sticking to the usual beauty and fashion based stuff. I LOVE posting about beauty & fashion but I kind of want to make my blog more like an online magazine which encompasses everything that I’m interested in. So, when I seen a news story the other day stating that MPs voted against compulsory sex and relationship education in schools, I thought it was the perfect start.

At university i studied Psychology and Sociology and I did a module called ‘Sex and Intimacy in the 21st century’, so this is something that we discussed in great detail, and I actually wrote about how sex education in schools is failing young people in an exam. 
Sex and relationships is an inevitable, natural part of life and because of that fact, we need to know about it. Sex education as it is now focuses too much on the biology of sex anyway! Think back to when you were taught sex education at school, what did you learn? I know that I was basically taught minimal biology of the reproductive organs and condoms and thats pretty much it. A survey by YouGov in 2008 found that more than 1/3 of teenagers relied on sex advice from friends, the internet, magazines and pornography because the information they received at school was so vague. Just imagine how damaging it is, particularly for a young girl, to rely on something like porn for information about sex! It’s no doubt leaving young women with a distorted idea of sex and relationships which can lead to body insecurities. Not only that, but porn (and portrayal of sex in the media in general) is heavily focused on male pleasure - so how is a woman supposed to learn about her own? 
On top of this, sex education in schools doesn’t teach young girls about their sexual anatomy in enough depth at all. A lot of women, even as adults, don’t know the correct biological terms for the different parts of the universally referred to ‘vagina’. As a result, many young women enter puberty (already a confusing time) uneducated about their own sexuality and their own body. I remember reading an extract from an article by Ford (2015) that said some women that had been interviewed about their sexual experiences, said that as adults they found orgasms too overwhelming and anxiety inducing because of the lack on information they had received about female sexuality. Like… WHAT?! Girls are already caught up between being deemed ‘slutty’ or ‘prudish’ - they need to be taught that there is nothing wrong with female sexuality, that it’s normal! 
The lack of sex education is leaving young people sexually illiterate. It’s already vague and biologically focused - but now it’s not even compulsory?

Of course there is always an issue when it comes to what you should and shouldn't talk to young people about and so there will probably always be an issue when it comes to sex education. But it seems absurd that in a time of such social change and technological progression that sexual relationships, intimacy and sexual pleasure remains as such a taboo subject within schools. Young people WANT to know about sex - they’re looking for the answers to their questions anywhere that they can find them and it’s causing them to look to things like porn which can cause them to interpret sex and sexual relations in a really damaging way. 



I hope you guys found this post interesting, it's just my interpretation on the whole thing. Let me know your opinion & let me know what you think about the idea of making my blog like an online magazine?

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xoxo Kayleigh
Friday, 6 January 2017

New Year, New Me?

New Year, New Me?
Friday, 6 January 2017
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I know people always give it the ol' "new year, new me" spiel every single year - but despite how cliche it sounds, I actually feel like I will be a new person this year. 2016 was a hard year for a lot of people - and for the world in general - but on a personal level, I actually learnt so much about myself and I feel like I have grown a lot because of it. I did things that I never thought I would do and I'm going to be a better person this year because of it. 
So I've decided, purely for personal reasons (i.e. when I lose sight of my goals I can go back and say 'OMG I HAVE TO DO IT BECAUSE I POSTED IT ON THE INTERNET'), that I would share a list of things that I want to achieve this year!

Resolutions:
1) Drink more water 
I definitely don't drink enough water and I'm always thirsty - you gotta get that 2 litres giiiiirl.

2) Read more
You know when you buy loads of books off of amazon even though you already have loads that you've not yet read? #GUILTY. I actually do love reading though, so I'm going to try and read a little bit every day.

3) Post a blog post once a week
Another thing that I LOVE doing but don't do enough. As of now, I will be posting once a week (maybe even sometimes twice if I have something important to say- but lets not get ahead of ourselves). It will be every Sunday, so keep an eye out! 

4) Be more organised in general
This is, like, the most general NYR ever because it pretty much encompasses everything that I've been slacking at. Keeping my bedroom tidy, getting up earlier, spending less time doing nothing and more time doing things I enjoy. I'm going to be 22 this year FGS, it's time I got my shit together!

Things I want to achieve:
Start driving lessons
This is something that I really, really need to start this year. Ive been putting it off for so long because I'm so nervous about it but this year I WILL.

Be happy
Every year I have 'lose weight' or 'go on a diet' on my list go NYRs, but this year my main goal is to be happy. Yes, I am going to try and eat healthier and do more exercise BUT I'm not going to make myself feel like shit if I stumble because that doesn't help. I'm going to try and think more positive. Make a note of the things that have made me happy in the week, or try being mindful. 

I hope you enjoyed reading my goals for 2017, hopefully you got some inspo or have some of the same goals. Please do let me know what your goals for this year are because I love to see what other people want to achieve!

xoxo Kayleigh 
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