I don't think there's a single person in the world that fully knows what they're doing. You assume when you're younger that by the time you reach your twenties you'll have a full blown career, a house and you'll basically be a fully fledged adult - but let's be honest 9 times out of 10 that's not the case. Realistically you'll probably spend your twenties (early twenties at least) starting a career and being torn between wanting to grow up faster and not wanting to grow up at all. Half the time I'm excited about the prospect of the future but a lot of the times I feel overly nostalgic about the past. I'm currently trying to navigate this in-between place that comes with being in your early twenties and it's been tough tbh, but there is nothing more rewarding than getting that occasional feeling that you're doing something right. As I write this I have the house to myself, I'm sitting on the sofa with my washing on, my (healthy!!) dinner cooking having just finished a day of work and I have this happy feel like I've got my shit together. Admittedly, this feeling never stays long but when it comes I love it! I love feeling like I've got my shit together. Here are a few things that make me feel like an adult even though it makes no sense: - Making my lunch for work every day - Listening to podcasts/audio books - Eating healthy - Writing lists - Drinking wine - Drinking coffee - Going out for lunch or dinner rather than getting pissed I wrote a blog post not too long ago about how I was finding it hard to get a job in the field that I wanted and how I was getting downhearted about the entire thing, fast forward to now (5 months later) and I have a job that I love doing exactly what I want to do. It feels cliche AF to say, but a lot of the time everything actually does turn out alright in the end, you just kinda have to have faith that it will. So now, almost half a year after my previous, pretty bleak life update, I guess all I have to say is that things are looking up! Let me know what you've been up to & if you like these kinds of posts :-)
It's been a while since I've done a favourites post and tbh, I'm not sure why because they're one of my favourite posts to write and I also love reading other people's. So I thought that even though it's not the end of the month, I would share with you some new things that I've been loving over the past month or so.
One of the main things that I've been enjoying doing recently is watching new TV shows that I normally wouldn't think to watch. I'm so picky when it comes to TV and film because I'm the type of person that knows what she likes and usually just sticks to that but I've been trying to expand my horizons, so to speak...
Admittedly, this is the type of show that I love. PLL style, teen-based drama that isn't overly scary or OTT, the only downside is that episodes come out weekly and I'm so impatient I hate waiting for them!
American Crime Story: The People Vs OJ Simpson
This is what I mean by expanding my horizons. Don't get me wrong, I love a TV show based around crime AND I love American Horror Story so it's not completely out of the blue for me to be interested in a show like this. With that said, I do seem to always go back to my sit-com favourites that are easy watching and don't require much concentration, but one day I was really in the mood to put down my phone and become engrossed in a genuinely interesting show - and this fit the bill perfectly.
The much anticipated new season of Love came to Netflix on 10th March and I've already seen it all. I just love it so much (get it). It's funny, dramatic, relatable and quirky - all of my favourite ingredients for a decent TV show.
I'm pretty sure they have featured in a favourites post of mine before and they feature in pretty much every playlist I've ever made, but they have been one of my favourite bands since I discovered them in 2014. The reason that I'm mentioning them now is because I literally went to see them last night in Leicester and they were just perfect - as always. I'd definitely recommend checking them out if you're in to bands like Twin Atlantic or Prides.
Taking Back Sunday
For some reason I've been listening to TBS constantly this month. They're a band that I associate with my young teenage years so maybe I've been feeling nostalgic ha ha.
Another all-time favourite but my sister & I just got lyrics from our favourite The 1975 song tattooed so I kinda had to include them!
Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari & Eric Klinenberg
I love Aziz. Like I actually love him. I love him in everything he's ever been in, ever wrote, ever done. This book basically talks about romance in the modern day compared to in the past (duh, the title says it all). It talks about the research that they carried out which is actually really interesting from a Psychological/Sociological point of view but Aziz's humour kind of breaks up all the stats and reporting to make it light-hearted and fun.
Maybelline Master Ink Liquid Eyeliner
A few weeks ago my beloved Soap & Glory Supercat eyeliner ran out so I was in the look-out for a new liquid eyeliner that was very cheap because I've got limited funds rn. This was buy one get one free in Superdrug and I needed a new mascara too (I use the Maybelline push up drama one, it is literally my baby and I love it so much) so I thought that I would give it a go! It was well worth the small price tag (I think it's £4.99 when you buy it on it's own but I got it for free because I got the mascara, obvs), the brush is so small that you can get a really precise line right on the waterline and it makes it so easy to do cat eye flicks - it's fab!
Choose Love - Katherine Hamnett for Help Refugees
You may have seen this tshirts knocking about on social media, I know that they've been advertised a lot by celebrities. I love it! I love the sentiment, I love the meaning, I love the design and I love that it shows everyone that I support Refugees #TakeThatHaters
So this post is kinda longer than I thought it would be, but I guess that's what happens when I don't do a favourites post in a long time! I hope you enjoyed it, let me know what you've been loving so far this month :-)
Anyone that knows me knows that I am probably the most soul-less, cold person ever when it comes to love, relationships and marriage BUT this weekend was enough to forge a tear (or two) from my stoney eyes. On Saturday 4th March my cousin got married to the man that she has been best friends with since they were 12 years old and it was the most adorable ceremony EVER.
Everyone that I've spoken to, that has seen pictures, has said that it was literally wedding goals and obviously I agree, so here are a few details from the day... Everything about the day was magical from the backdrop of rolling hills and green fields, to the vintage-esque theme featuring a floral, naked cake and vintage-style photo booth and even the Disney themed table centrepieces.
How unreal is this dress though.
This setting tho
Literally the most adorable sweetie cart
Sorry that this post is kind of just a collection of photos from the day, but they were just so cute I had to share! Let me know what you think in the comments :-)
It's been a while since I've done a post like this so I thought that I'd share with you the tunes that I've been listening to these past few months! My moods have kinda been all over the place recently and that is reflected in the songs on my playlist so there's something for everyone - everything from Dreamgirls classics to acoustic beauties and even club bangers!
I hope you enjoyed having a little browse of my favourite songs right now! Let me know in the comments what you've been listening to!
With the beginning of 2017 came a reignited passion for fashion for me. I feel like I've spent ages in the past chucking on any old thing because I wasn't confident in the way I looked or felt, but since I've stumbled across body positive bloggers such as Grace Victory and Felicity Hayward they've inspired me to get back in to fashion in a big way!
So I've decided that I'm going to start doing fashiony posts more often - things like my outfits of the week etc. The first of these posts, today's, is basically my staple wardrobe items that I've been wearing non-stop for the past month! (Let me know what you think in the comments & what fashion posts you enjoy reading).
1) Band tees and ripped jeans
Basically my aesthetic for the whole of winter has been band tees and ripped jeans. I came across the ones in the picture in one of Grace Victory's YT videos (I think it was an ASOS haul) - they're the Farleigh MOM jeans and they are literally my favourite jeans EVER. Admittedly, I probably wear them too often! I just feel like they're really flattering on and they're high-waisted which I love. I also feel like band t-shirts are a no brainer. They're super comfy and just generally look really cool.
2. Leopard print jacket
I literally wear this jacket every single day. It is my favourite thing! I don't know what has happened to me but I am obsessed with leopard print. I get that it's one of those love-it-or-hate-it prints, but right now I'm loving it MAJORLY.
3. This magical, shimmery skirt
Look at it. Just look at it. Need I say more? I love wearing this on a night out either dressed up or dressed down with a band tee. It's just mesmerising!
4. Oversized jumpers
The struggles of Winter have been too real for me this year - it's been absolutely freezing! There's nothing worse than getting up for work at 5am, stepping out in to the cold and realising that you've not put on enough layers. This jumper has been my saving grace the past month! It's so cosy, it's like bringing a little bit of bed with me.
These have become really popular recently and I'm not ashamed to say that I've 100% jumped on the trend too. They're just so comfy and they go with everything!
6. Tartan Scarf
This scarf is my absolute baby. I wear it all the time, with any outfit and I have for a few years tbh.
Let me know what your fashion faves are & what fashion posts you enjoy reading!
I love to read but a lot of the time, for whatever reason, I feel like I either don't have the time (or just can't be bothered) to sit down in a quiet space with a physical book and just read. So, in an attempt to become more like an adult I've decided to start listening to audiobooks! I actually don't know why I didn't think about doing this before because it is FAB. I wander around the house doing general chores, making dinner etc and just listen to books while I'm doing it!
Anyways, if you sign up with audible you get one free credit that you can use to download any book that you want. I chose Amy Schumer's The Girl With The Lower Back Tattoo because I had wanted to read it for ages and because it is a story about her life, read by her so I thought that it would be interesting to hear it being read the way she had intended. I honestly can't put in to words how much I enjoyed this book! I already kinda knew that I would like it because I love Amy Schumer's stand up, films and TV shows so I assumed that this would be no different - but it was different. I loved it, but it was different. I love how witty and sarcastic she is and there definitely was humour aplenty, but the book showed a more serious side of her. In amongst the stories of one-night-stands and failed relationships, she talks about body shaming and gun laws and it really makes the book an interesting read (or listen). I feel like it was extra special listening to the book being read by Amy Schumer herself because you could kind of tell when there were parts she found emotional and it felt REAL rather than just another 'autobiography' supposedly written by a celebrity that has actually been mostly written by a ghostwriter. One of my favourite aspects of the book were the parts when she talks about coming through in the comedy world. I love when any woman is able to make a name for herself in a male-dominated field and hearing the shit that she had to put up with makes me feel, idk, proud? Like, YOU GO GAL! There's also a bit that I have earmarked as my ultimate favourite (and that sometimes I listen to if I need a bit of reassurance) where she talks about body shaming and the term 'plus size'. I wish there was more positivity when it comes to women's body image so hearing someone try to promote it is amazzzzzing. I would definitely recommend this book to ANYONE because it genuinely really is interesting - I find myself talking about it to anyone that will listen!
As a young woman speaking from experience, loving yourself can be extremely hard. We’re under constant scrutiny, whether it be from others or from ourselves and we’re bombarded with pictures of ‘perfectly’ shaped models with perfect-looking lives (thank social media) so it’s no wonder that women are finding it hard to love themselves. However, recently after learning to accept myself I’ve learnt a lot about self-love and I thought I would share it with you in the hopes that you might learn to love yourself too!
Sometimes it means saying no. Whether it be saying no to going out with your friends or saying no to an extra workload – sometimes we HAVE to say no because we need to take a bit of time for ourselves.
People’s opinions are their business, not yours. In life, we are never going to be liked or appreciated by every single person that crosses our path. As long as you stay kind and true to yourself, if people have an issue, it’s their problem not yours. As the famous saying goes, “a lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.”
We owe it to ourselves to look after our body AND our mind. Looking after your body and your mind should always be top priority and both are as important as the other
Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time. We all know what it’s like to turn on the TV or open a magazine and see someone we wish we looked like but let’s face it, we never will. The images we see in the media are unrealistic, even the models in the pictures don’t look that way in real life! Comparing yourself to any other person is a complete waste of time because everyone is different!We should stop wasting our time feeling bad about looking different and start celebrating diversity.
Wear what you want to wear. I used to say to myself, “if I was thinner I’d wear such nice clothes” and it wasn’t until this year that I realised I CAN WEAR NICE CLOTHES NOW. Having the confidence to wear what you want is hard and it takes a long time to get to a point where you are comfortable enough to do it, but once you do – it’s great!
I’m only human.I think we’re too hard on ourselves. It seems to be human nature to focus on what we can’t do rather than what we have done. It’s important to remember that we WILL make mistakes, but those mistakes don’t define us. The other day I congratulated myself on making a phone call that I was dreading (and had put off for at least 2 weeks) – it may seem like a small thing for some, but I was proud of myself for doing it so I felt like I deserved a congratulations. It’s little things like that, that people need to do more – whenever you achieve anything, no matter how small, just relish in the fact that you’ve achieved something!
You don’t need to have everything together. No-one ever has their life 100% sorted, organised and perfect. If you have ever been told by someone that they have, chances are they were lying. So next time you feel like you’re falling apart and nothing seems to be going right just remember that you’re not alone because in the very least, I’m right there with ya!
Anyone that knows me knows that I have wanted to go to Disneyland for the past 20 years. When I was little my sister and I used to pick up brochures for Disneyland and just give them to our parents - you'd think they'd get the hint, but they didn't. So for my 21st birthday I FINALLY got to go and it was magical. I'm not going to lie, I cried (tbh, I cried more than once). Needless to say, it definitely didn't disappoint and I'm definitely going back ASAP!
Also, while we were there we obviously had a little look around Paris and the whole time I was in awe. It is definitely one of the prettiest places I've ever seen - especially because I'm a sucker for architecture so I was mesmerised by all the old buildings and the chic little cafes with people sitting outside sipping on wine with a cigarette in hand.
The past 3 years of my life have been an absolute rollercoaster, but that's just what uni does to you! I genuinely had times (multiple times) when I thought that it just wasn't going to happen and I'm sure my friends were fed up of me threatening to drop out. But... I did it! University has genuinely been the best time ever and I met so many amazing people so it was really special to be able to graduate with them.
3) Reading festival.
This Summer I decided that I would treat my sister to a ticket to her first ever music festival. Since we were kids we've watched all of the festivals on TV and I knew that she would love to go, so for her 18th birthday I took her! It was so good being able to experience it with her and seeing some of our favourite bands together was definitely a highlight.
4) Multiple trips to London (/seeing Kinky Boots).
This year my sister went to uni and as much as I miss her, I also love it because it means that I get to visit her in London. This Christmas we went to see Kinky Boots at the Adelphi Theatre and it actually changed my life. So now, I'm going to quit my job and follow my dreams of being a West End star...
5) The Christmas/New Year period with my gals.
Me and my friends are always off doing other things - some of us are still at uni, others have full time jobs and we're hardly ever in the same place at the same time so Christmas is always a time for us to reunite and it's always one of my fave times of year.
6) Getting matching tattoos with my sister.
I feel like a lot of these memories are either about, or include, my sister BUT WE JUST SPEND A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER OK!? Anyways, this year because she turned 18 we decided to get matching tattoos. It's a pinky promise and it basically means that we'll always be there for each other no matter what - like an unbreakable bond. She didn't even flinch, I was so proud!
I hope you enjoyed a little look back at the past year of my life! Feel free to comment your favourite memories from 2016 because it's always nice to think about the positives in amongst all the shit that happened on a more wider scale.
I tweeted recently saying that I’m going to start discussing different topics on my blog such as mental health, topical news stories, sex etc. - things that I’m interested in, in general, rather than just sticking to the usual beauty and fashion based stuff. I LOVE posting about beauty & fashion but I kind of want to make my blog more like an online magazine which encompasses everything that I’m interested in. So, when I seen a news story the other day stating that MPs voted against compulsory sex and relationship education in schools, I thought it was the perfect start.
At university i studied Psychology and Sociology and I did a module called ‘Sex and Intimacy in the 21st century’, so this is something that we discussed in great detail, and I actually wrote about how sex education in schools is failing young people in an exam.
Sex and relationships is an inevitable, natural part of life and because of that fact, we need to know about it. Sex education as it is now focuses too much on the biology of sex anyway! Think back to when you were taught sex education at school, what did you learn? I know that I was basically taught minimal biology of the reproductive organs and condoms and thats pretty much it. A survey by YouGov in 2008 found that more than 1/3 of teenagers relied on sex advice from friends, the internet, magazines and pornography because the information they received at school was so vague. Just imagine how damaging it is, particularly for a young girl, to rely on something like porn for information about sex! It’s no doubt leaving young women with a distorted idea of sex and relationships which can lead to body insecurities. Not only that, but porn (and portrayal of sex in the media in general) is heavily focused on male pleasure - so how is a woman supposed to learn about her own?
On top of this, sex education in schools doesn’t teach young girls about their sexual anatomy in enough depth at all. A lot of women, even as adults, don’t know the correct biological terms for the different parts of the universally referred to ‘vagina’. As a result, many young women enter puberty (already a confusing time) uneducated about their own sexuality and their own body. I remember reading an extract from an article by Ford (2015) that said some women that had been interviewed about their sexual experiences, said that as adults they found orgasms too overwhelming and anxiety inducing because of the lack on information they had received about female sexuality. Like… WHAT?! Girls are already caught up between being deemed ‘slutty’ or ‘prudish’ - they need to be taught that there is nothing wrong with female sexuality, that it’s normal!
The lack of sex education is leaving young people sexually illiterate. It’s already vague and biologically focused - but now it’s not even compulsory?
Of course there is always an issue when it comes to what you should and shouldn't talk to young people about and so there will probably always be an issue when it comes to sex education. But it seems absurd that in a time of such social change and technological progression that sexual relationships, intimacy and sexual pleasure remains as such a taboo subject within schools. Young people WANT to know about sex - they’re looking for the answers to their questions anywhere that they can find them and it’s causing them to look to things like porn which can cause them to interpret sex and sexual relations in a really damaging way.
I hope you guys found this post interesting, it's just my interpretation on the whole thing. Let me know your opinion & let me know what you think about the idea of making my blog like an online magazine?
I know people always give it the ol' "new year, new me" spiel every single year - but despite how cliche it sounds, I actually feel like I will be a new person this year. 2016 was a hard year for a lot of people - and for the world in general - but on a personal level, I actually learnt so much about myself and I feel like I have grown a lot because of it. I did things that I never thought I would do and I'm going to be a better person this year because of it.
So I've decided, purely for personal reasons (i.e. when I lose sight of my goals I can go back and say 'OMG I HAVE TO DO IT BECAUSE I POSTED IT ON THE INTERNET'), that I would share a list of things that I want to achieve this year!
1) Drink more water
I definitely don't drink enough water and I'm always thirsty - you gotta get that 2 litres giiiiirl.
2) Read more
You know when you buy loads of books off of amazon even though you already have loads that you've not yet read? #GUILTY. I actually do love reading though, so I'm going to try and read a little bit every day.
3) Post a blog post once a week
Another thing that I LOVE doing but don't do enough. As of now, I will be posting once a week (maybe even sometimes twice if I have something important to say- but lets not get ahead of ourselves). It will be every Sunday, so keep an eye out!
4) Be more organised in general
This is, like, the most general NYR ever because it pretty much encompasses everything that I've been slacking at. Keeping my bedroom tidy, getting up earlier, spending less time doing nothing and more time doing things I enjoy. I'm going to be 22 this year FGS, it's time I got my shit together!
Things I want to achieve:
Start driving lessons
This is something that I really, really need to start this year. Ive been putting it off for so long because I'm so nervous about it but this year I WILL.
Every year I have 'lose weight' or 'go on a diet' on my list go NYRs, but this year my main goal is to be happy. Yes, I am going to try and eat healthier and do more exercise BUT I'm not going to make myself feel like shit if I stumble because that doesn't help. I'm going to try and think more positive. Make a note of the things that have made me happy in the week, or try being mindful.
I hope you enjoyed reading my goals for 2017, hopefully you got some inspo or have some of the same goals. Please do let me know what your goals for this year are because I love to see what other people want to achieve! xoxo Kayleigh